Problems? Ah, we all have them! Small or big, irrelevant or not, they make up a lot of our daily life. We have to determine what they are and deal with them. Deal with them in a way so they hopefully won’t come back and we don’t have to deal with them again and again. That’s not always the case though. Some problems come back time after time, making us go crazy because what could we possibly be doing wrong? As a child, my biggest problem was picking what I wanted to play with that day.
Today, let’s face it. If I was to name all of our problems, small and big, we’d be here all day long. I’d have to go into detail about school problems, family problems, social problems and many more. I bet you can think of at least two as I speak?
Like with everything, of course there are types of problems. Serious ones include sicknesses or family issues. Less serious ones could be being in a fight with your best friend or not getting into the school you wanted to. Whatever it is, I can promise you, there won’t be a day in your life where you won’t have to deal with something.
Sometimes, you may not even realise it, but they always manage to sneak in. What’s interesting is how exactly we go about fixing things that shouldn’t be taking place.
Have you ever tried ignoring one of your problems? Pretending like it was never there? I know I have, and I also know that sometimes it is okay. For a short amount of time. After a while, they come back and well, they’re three times worse.
I believe however, that whatever happens, whatever you’re going through, whatever issues you’re trying to resolve, it’s always a good idea to tell someone, someone you trust of course! Trust me when I say this, problems become smaller once you say them out loud. There’s a quote that says ’If we threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d take ours back‘. In a way, this applies to sharing issues. Because sometimes we aren’t even aware of what problems arise in the house next door. Sometimes, unshared worries and issues come out and see the day light in the end. And suddenly you stop in your tracks and think, hey, I’m happy that I don’t have to deal with that. Sharing brings people together, ties communities in a way that can’t be explained. You tell someone, they help you, and you help someone else. It happens all the time! You just don’t pay attention to it.
But today, I’d like to point out us, teenagers. Our problems, our queries. There’s a lot, that’s for sure. Why? Because unlike children who couldn’t give a damn about anything, or adults that are past that stage of their life already, we are trying to find ourselves. And that sometimes means leaving the wrong people behind, picking the wrong school, choosing to go to a party when you know right well you should be studying. From all of those things, problems will arise. Now you and your best friend aren’t talking, you have to go to a school you despise and you know absolutely nothing for the test next day! These are called problems, yet somehow, one day, some parent decided none of this matters! And this is something that annoys me a little. We’re expected to understand that taxes are a real life problem, and, we are to respect our parents because they try to resolve them. From what I learned, this isn’t a two way thing. A fight with your friends is childish and unimportant. With huge respect to all of our parents that love us more than we can imagine, in my opinion, we should strive to be better people at any stages of our lives. It may seem hard to parents who have a lot on their minds, but as I said, problems become smaller when they are said out loud.
Let the saying; ‘Listen to a friend, listen to your parents, listen to your child’ be a thing from now on :)
-Wiktoria Grabarczyk